Anisa Varasteh

Issue Thirteen: Desire Is a Language — Listen   Two women. Two very different lives. But both came to me with the same story — or at least, what they thought  was the same story:   “I don’t feel like having sex anymore.”   They had both tried to fix it. They’d read the articles, made the effort, scheduled “date nights.” They’d tried to think  their way out of it.   But desire did not return.   For one woman, it began after childbirth. A few years postpartum, her body still tensed at the...

Issue Twelve: Why So Many Good Men Lose Touch with Their Own Desire He was a kind man. Loving. Thoughtful. Devoted. He came to me because he’d been experiencing erectile difficulties. He wasn’t angry or frustrated. Mostly, he was confused. “I love my wife,” he said. “I want to want her. But as soon as we start, I lose my erection.” As he spoke, I noticed something: Every time he mentioned sex, his jaw tightened. A small, almost invisible clench— But the body is the most direct way to access...

Issue Eleven: The kind of truth that turns you on. Many people say they want intimacy. Few are prepared for the honesty it demands. Because honesty, the real kind, doesn’t live in words. It lives in the body. In the moment your breath changes. In the way your shoulders tighten when something doesn’t feel right— even if your mouth is still smiling. We grow up thinking honesty means confession: the courage to speak, to admit, to tell. But erotic honesty isn’t about confession. It’s about...