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Episode 11- Intimacy and sex after sexual assault

In this episode Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologist discusses:

• The impact of sexual assault on relationships

• Why sex and intimacy can be very challenging after sexual assault

• How to re-build intimacy if you find any sexual or physical activity triggering

• What partners can do to support their loved one

• Strategies to enjoy intimacy again

• What type of therapist can help with intimacy related issues post trauma

Episode 10- Are you in a relationship with a narcissist?

In this episode, Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologists discusses: 

• What is narcissism? 

• Identifying narcissism in relationships 

• Early signs and red flags for narcissism in romantic and sexual relationships

• The impact of long-term relationships with a narcissist

• Leaving a toxic relationship with a narcissist

Episode 9- Why the 5 Love Languages may be hurting your relationship

In this episode, Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologists will discuss: 

• What the 5 Love Languages are

• Why they may be hurting your relationship

• Tips for healthy relationships

• Managing conflicts in a relationship 

Episode 8 - Can watching porn impact your mental health, sexual functioning or relationship?

In this episode Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologist answers your questions about pornography:

-What is pornography?
-Can watching porn impact your mental health, sexual functioning or relationship?
-What is ethical pornography?
-Can porn be helpful?
-Does violent porn lead to violent behaviour?
-I am a non-violent person but interested in BDSM, does it mean I have an underlying desire to hurt others?
-Can you develop porn addiction by watching porn?
-How can I identify if I am addicted to porn?

Episode 7 - Things no one told you about open relationships

In this episode:

• Why do people choose open relationships?

• How common is non-monogamy?

• What do I/we need to do if we want to explore an open relationship?

• Essential skills you need for a successful relationship

• Different relationship structures

Links to resources mentioned in this episode:​

Worksheet:

• https://www.relatesexology.com/resources

Books:

• Polyamory by Martha Kaupi

• Polysecure by  Jessica Fern,

• The Ethical Slut, Dossie Easton

Episode 6 - In the therapy room

In this episode:

• Healing attachment wounds in therapy

• Listen to Anisa using Internal Family Systems to support someone with who has anxiety around dating

Episode 5 - What your sexual fantasies say about you

In this episode, you will hear: ​

• The origin of sexual fantasies

• The most common sexual fantasies and why people have them

• The psychology of sexual fantasies

• Difference between fantasy and desire

• How to communicate with your partner about sexual fantasies

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Links to resources mentioned in this episode:

Submit you questions here: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/DNMZV75

Healing Through Kink online training: www.relatesexology.com/healing-through-kink

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To book a therapeutic session with Anisa visit:
https://www.relatesexology.com/​

Episode 4- Why your choice of partner is not always a free choice.

In this episode, you will hear: 

• Impact of childhood experiences on adulthood relationships

• Attachment styles 

• How attachment styles impact intimate relationships

• Strategies to form new healthy relationships

To book a therapeutic session with Anisa visit:
https://www.relatesexology.com/

Books mentioned in the podcast:
Healing Trauma by Peter Levine
The body keeps the score by Bassel van der Kolk 

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Episode 3- Demystifying Female Orgasm

In this episode, you will hear: 

• Orgasm as a social construct

• The common myths about female orgasm

• How do porn and the media impact our sexuality?

• Redefining foreplay and sex

• Anorgasmia

• The impact of language on experiencing sexual pleasure

• Ways to explore pleasure

• How to discuss masturbation with your partner

• Choosing body-safe sex toys

For more information about the therapeutic services I offer visit: www.relatesexology.com

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Episode 2- The psychology of Seduction

In this episode, you will hear: 

• The difference between being friendly and flirty

• How not to get “friend-zoned”

• Common mistakes people make when they want to seduce someone

• How to avoid such mistakes

• How not to come across as “predatory” or “too much”

• Step-by-step guide  to seduce another person

• How to ask for consent without “killing the mood”

Links to resources mentioned in this episode:

• Submit you questions here: www.relatesexology.com/contact

• Free online course: Discover Your Erotic Style: www.relatesexology.com/sexuality-workshop-desire-style

• Discover Your Erotic Self Workshop: www.relatesexology.com/sexuality-workshop-erotic-self

• Book 1:1 therapy with Anisa: www.relatesexology.com/contact

• More about Dr. Alison Ash:
  www.turnon.love/

Please note Sexplicit is a production of Relate Sexology.

Episode 1- Kink & BDSM

In this episode, you will hear: 

• Definition of kink & BDSM

• Myths and facts about kink

• How my story as a sexologist began

Links to resources mentioned in this episode:

• Submit you questions here: www.relatesexology.com/contact

• Healing through kink online training: www.relatesexology.com/healing-through-kink

Please note Sexplicit is a production of Relate Sexology.